I know something about keeping my love life sexy! I’ve been happily married for 10 years to my 3^rd husband. I’ve learned from my mistakes and my experiences. This time around I’ve kept the sexy going strong. Many women ask me my secrets…so here they are.

First of all wear something sexy to bed. Find out the type of sleepwear that turns your husband on and wear it! If he likes see-thru, great. If he likes satin, great. If he likes lace, great. Ban the flannel pajamas unless he loves them on you.

Then find out what he wants you to wear for sex. Is it high heels in bed? Is it a bustier or garter belts? Is it a certain color or stockings? Oil all over your skin? Whatever he likes is fine. Don’t judge it; just do it! The bedroom should be a source of mutual pleasure and exploration.

There are no taboos in the privacy of your bedroom. As long as two adults are mutually consenting and wanting to please one another, that’s all that matters.

One of my biggest secrets aside from dressing the part and being eager to please is to “change things up”. Don’t be predictable. Don’t always do the same thing. Try out new things and see how he responds. Read books, watch adult movies, get counseling…add to your arsenal.

Oh and one of my other secrets? Always wash up before going to bed. Be clean from head to toe and smell good enough to eat! Be hair free wherever he likes you to be. Be manicured and pedicured (yes, even in the winter) with skin that is ever so soft to the touch. Do you have to buff and polish your skin all over? You bet you do. Do you have to slather your body with lovely lotions? Damn right.

The other secret is to wear a scent or perfume that drives him mad. Never ever wear a scent he doesn’t like. The sense of smell is a powerful memory inducing aphrodisiac.

Last, but not least, wear beautiful sexy lingerie every day. Let him see what you have on BEFORE he leaves for work. He’ll think about those bra and panties all day long and be raring to go that night.

My final best kept secret is this: pleasure him even when you don’t feel like having sex. Do it with a smile and with passion. It will be a treat he will love you for. Then pat him while you bounce out of bed and say, “I love you.”

When I refer to “him”, I mean your significant other, partner, or spouse. I don’t care whether you’re gay or straight. Being smart about your sex life and keeping the “sassy” going applies to anyone.

Valentine’s Day can be all year long if you put the extra effort in to show you care.

Think of yourself as his “little blue pill”: stimulating, fun, and always ready.

On Valentine’s Day, most people are concerned with the love they are expecting to get, but they forget the important love they can give… the gift of self-love.

When you love yourself deeply many magical things start to happen: in yourself and in your relationships. Loving yourself helps you to love others more deeply. Also, when you fall in love with yourself you are so much more attractive to others. After all, everything in our lives is a mirror of what we have inside of ourselves. So the more positive qualities and energy we have inside of us, the more of that we have to give.

When you love yourself, you let go of judging yourself and you learn to forgive yourself. To the degree you do that, you are more quickly able to forgive the ones you love and see the divine essence inside of them. They will feel that loving warm energy and respond in more positive ways than you can ever imagine.

Another side effect of self-love is that you will take better care of yourself. You will care more about how you look and how you dress/groom. Taking good care of yourself is an immediate reflection of your feelings of self-worth.

This Valentine’s Day, I suggest you treat yourself to some extra pampering. Groom as if you were going on a first date.  Buy that new lingerie you’ve been wanting. Treat yourself to a mani/pedi. Or get that luxurious perfume. Give yourself something sensual and fabulous. You deserve it.  Do things for yourself that make you feel loved and remove that job from your significant other: allowing them to fall more in love with the YOU that you love.

For your special Valentine’s date, wear something alluring, especially from the waist up. The focal point of your outfit will be viewed at the dinner table, so put the extra finishes where they’ll be seen the most. Fabulous sexy shoes are great, but you must create visual interest at the neckline or near the face.

Let Valentine’s Day 2013 be the day you celebrate LOVE: in yourself, your partner, your children, your family and your friends. Be grateful and take time to tell them all how much you care. Tell all the helpful people in your life how much you appreciate them. An attitude of gratitude can uplift even the weariest heart.

Fall in love with yourself and let your beauty, joy and love shine to the world. Live this day with passion and allow your deepest desires to be the life force behind all that you do. Feel passion and desire pulsing through your as the electricity of your being elevates your soul.

Drink the wine you love and savor your favorite chocolate as it melts in your mouth. Eat your favorite foods. Celebrate your feelings and all that you love on this blessed Valentine’s Day.

Know with certainty that you are all that is holy, good and beautiful. Applaud what makes you special and show those special qualities in how you package yourself.

To learn more about how to let your unique beauty shine, read my newest book, “Dress Code: Ending Fashion Anarchy!” available online and in major bookstores nationwide.

We can expect to see lots of facial hair on male celebs at The Oscars. A huge resurgence in popularity began with scruffy regrowth has now evolved into full on beards, mustaches, goatees, soul patches, mutton chops and more. I credit this trend to the 70′s flashback in fashion, when large sideburns, beards and mustaches reigned supreme.

Facial hair takes work to look neat and groomed. It’s all about the “edge” to keep it looking strong and sexy. Full thick facial hair looks more vintage.

Men can make a big fashion statement with facial hair which is great since they have less hairstyle options than women. They can look more worldly, hip, rocker or glam just by adding the right facial hair.

Male celebs are sporting hairstyles with height above the forehead and close trimmed sides. Most are opting for short hair with their facial hair. Fastidious grooming and impeccably tailored tuxedos complete a very sexy masculine style.

The Most Influential Facial Hair Male Celeb Trendsetters

1. 
   The Brad Pitt: Long scruffy goatee or long straggly beard.  Hillbilly meets aging-hippie: A great way to ruin your handsome edge. Not suggested for men like Brad with pretty boy looks. Good for men with rugged features and uneven skin tone. Wear with a classic tux and evening tie. No bowties under the beard please.
2. 
   The Bradley Cooper: Mustache with a more than a five o’clock shadow beard. Looks super sexy and kissable with a clean well-defined edge just under the jawline. Oh so wrong when worn down the neck like an unmowed lawn.  Keep it P.Diddy uber groomed and sport it with any style tux.
3. 
   The Ben Affleck: Full on classic beard and mustache. Looks fab with the edges clean on the cheeks and under the jawline. It’s best when well trimmed and not too long. Shine products make the hair look more polished. Looks handsome and is a real head-turner when worn with a short modern haircut. Goes well with a classic tux and medium width lapels. For a more hipster look, trim the beard super short like a five day shadow.
4. 
   The Hugh Jackman: Manly classic mustache and goatee. Looks great with any style tux from classic lapels to shawl collar: bowtie or dress tie. Hair with height on top and closer sides compliment and balance the visual weight of the goatee/stash.
5. 
   The Leonardo Dicaprio: Super close-trimmed mustache, soul patch, and goatee that fades into a barely there stubble along the jawline. Amazingly sexy, especially with light blue eyes, brings definition to the face and adds a sculpted look. Goes great with any style tux.